Don't Miss Your Chance

If another guy that I attempt to "talk" to or date tells me that he is "not ready for a relationship right now" and is "ok with the way things are going", and is "just trying to figure things out" due to a previous relationship ending, I am going to punch him in the mouth....I am so sick of hearing this. The past four guys I have tried to date, have all began everything just fine and even instigated the whole relationship...then, as I get comfortable with them and am happy all the time, we have THE DISCUSSION. It never fails, they all say the same thing.
I like to think that there is something about me that will make them want to go ahead and give things a chance, but they are always too stubborn to just take that leap of faith. They all say "Kelly, you're a great girl and any guy would be lucky to have you; I like you alot and I want to date you but....I just cant because I'm really messed up right now. I need to figure things out and figure me out and get over my ex before I can date someone else." Then the next thing I know, they are dating someone else!
A good friend of mine said to me today: "Kels, maybe you just aren't reading the right kinda books." I told him that I have tried reading different types, and the covers may all look different, and the chapters might start out differently, but they all have the same ending.
I have some thoughts on this excuse that I'm constantly given:
In fact, as harsh as it may seem, this particular quote comes from one of the guys being spoken of: "What matters is not how many times you fall off your horse, what matters is how many times you pick yourself up and get back on"....I don't believe in "rebound" relationships. I believe in opportunities that you can either take or miss out on. I believe in blind leaps of faith when you find someone who makes you smile and things just feel right. Sure, things don't always turn out with a happy ending...but if you pass up the opportunities that are right in front of you (and that make you able to smile again), you may never get over that ex or figure things out. What people don't understand is that there is a reason for EVERYTHING that happens in our lives. God puts unexpected opportunities in front of us, and many of us fail to take them, especially when we need them the most. You never know, one of those blind leaps of faith could turn out to be the person you've waited your whole life to find.